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Re: 3 with 5- what are your thoughts or experiences

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Posted by Pm Dawn ( on February 17, 2003 at 15:55:05:

In Reply to: Re: 3 with 5- what are your thoughts or experiences posted by Primer Gray ( on February 17, 2003 at 12:07:58:

> I think it is times when I want to discuss "us" - you know, his perceptions of the relationship- defining it..I guess. Sometimes I get depressed that he never calls me or inititates anything. Although I can tell he misses me or is jealous if I spend a lot of time with other friends. Or if I don't call him for a while he gets ticked. But he would never come right out and admit it- ever. He is such a deep person and he is totally addicted to computer games, PS2, etc. Very technical interests. He has a very emotional side which he rarely shows- is never vulnerable but seems to like me to be. I guess the question I am asking is how can you even tell he cares? On a gut level I know he does- and he even told me so once (although it was about a year ago). If I ask for reassurance he's like remember our conversation?
And if I don't see him for a while cause he's real busy then I kinda freak out about it. It just seems to make him think I am an immature brat- which I guess I can be. I just would like to be less needy and get over him so to speak. I haven't ever had this kind of relationship with anyone else. I've had romantic involvements but not emotional friendships that were platonic. I once said- I miss you do you ever miss me? And he was like...sometimes. Any advice? I don't know how to get out of it. It's driving me crazy to stay in it. But if I don't see him I miss him.
btw- we are both married and our spouses are friends. I met him through work 4 years ago although I no longer work with him. We see them every weekend to hang out. Maybe I just care about him more than I should. He has been the only person I could really talk to- ever.

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