Posted by Leo (18.104.22.168) on April 14, 2003 at 12:31:22:
In Reply to: sometimes I run... posted by Jenny (22.214.171.124) on April 13, 2003 at 23:37:38:
I am a 5 and mostly happy.
Are you sure you're a 5? I am naturally introverted but I don't not talk to people because I fear rejection I don't talk to them because I feel I am irrelevant to them... I nearly didn't post this follow up. The 8 thing of feeling quite secure with my 5ness made me.
I have to keep telling myself I am relevant, at least at some level. The response you have around other people makes you sound like an introvert 4. You want to invoke an emotional response in them of acceptance... sounds like. Of course I don't know you... so you probably are a 5.
What you have to understand is that 5s generally always play a long game and always lose round 1. Round 1 should be all about scoping out the situation testing it to see if you can understand what's going on. If 5s don't understand something they are absolutely hopeless. So you have to bite your lip and be prepared to not get the result you want first time round.
The swing comes in the next round where you understand the thing that's scaring you. A 5 will always understand it better than anyone else and as long as you don't get lost in your stress point then you can use the 7 capacity to generalise and dream coupled with your natural perceptiveness to make a few 'lucky' guesses.
The only reason a 5 fails to achieve their objective in the long run is because they become secure 8 like and dogmatic.
The winning strategy for a 5 (or one of them, the one I use) is called 'I might be wrong' (I've already used it once above). You take on the humility, the ultimate 5 humility, of being wrong and admit that to the other person before you start.
The thing is often you are wrong first time out. 5s can see so far ahead of right now that often when in something new (and therefore stressful) they get lost in their visions of the long game. Use others to give you a reality check. That way you can proceed on real facts and always achieve in the end.
Post any questions below. And give me a reality check (see.)
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