Posted by Iris (18.104.22.168) on May 05, 2003 at 22:31:20:
In Reply to: Re: 5's Relationship to Parents; Also Any Other Ty~ posted by Ann (22.214.171.124) on May 05, 2003 at 14:50:59:
> I get along well with most of my family, but there's a certain barrier there- we're not particularly close. I'm a 5w4 INTP. My mom and I chatter on the phone fairly often (She's an INTJ 1w2), but we never actually touch on personal matters. My brother is an INTJ 9w1, and whenever we get on the phone, he never has much of anything to say to me. I try to avoid talking to my ISTJ 6w5 father because I can't relate to him. I also have a very old grandfather who is an INTP 5w4 like me, but two fives together creates a certain sense of coldness, even though we both care for each other.
> It can be frustrating to be a five because I have a desire to connect to other people but just can't seem to.
***** Lack of connection sucks. As much as my family gets along well with each other, we're not exactly an open family. Quite the opposite. I'm a female 5w4, my father being an 8w9 and my mom a 9w1. My brother's a 5w4, two sisters being 9w1, another sister 9w8 and yet another sister, a 2w3. My mom and I live together, and everyone else lives alone and all over the country.
My brother and I have never talked about personal stuff, but there is a bond that's silently acknowledged that I don't have with any of my sisters.
Living with my mom is great. She gives me complete freedom and space and doesn't ask questions. I couldn't ask for more.
As for my father, we've never been close and he was always the stricter parent. A common complaint my siblings and I all share about our father, is this certain way he talks to us when angry, that sounds like he's yelling, yet he insists he isn't. But he IS there if I do ever need anything.
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