Posted by Josie (126.96.36.199) on May 12, 2003 at 13:23:46:
In Reply to: 5 and 7 relationships: Ennea as mistaking humanity posted by Charlie (188.8.131.52) on May 11, 2003 at 22:24:04:
Charlie, it's silly, IMHO, to think that people's personalities change dramatically on a constant basis. None of the experts who have ideas about the Enneagram, Riso, Hudson, Palmer, or anyone else in their field, have ever claimed that people don't ever grow emotionally. I've learned lots of things about people I didn't know as a little kid, and my tastes have changed. But, as I was a 7 as a little girl, I'm a 7 as a grown woman. People DO NOT start life as a 2 and then become a 9 and then become a 3 and so on. The most important elements of one's personality are consistant throughout the lifespan. If you really were to observe people objectively, you'd find that.
Sure, people change and grow, but who they are remains consistant. A confused, naive 20 year old 6 can become an enlightened, brave, more confident 50 year old 6. But they don't magically transform into a 1.
If you don't believe in Enneagram ideology (which includes the idea that people's Enneagram types don't change, all people who specialize in educating people about the Enneagram agree with that) or like the Enneagram as a system to understand people, what the hell are you doing here in the first place, Charlie?
It's unrealistic to expect anyone to dramatically change who they are. I love who my man is. He'll have the same mind and heart ten years from now. And you seem to assume that my feeling that he's sexy is based on youthful looks. FYI, he's 55 already, and if he sees 85 (I sure hope he does), he'll still be just as beautiful and sexy to me.
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