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Posted by Ingo ( on May 17, 2003 at 17:05:25:

In Reply to: Re: 5 and 7 relationships posted by Josie ( on May 16, 2003 at 18:12:34:

> Subtle signs? Smiling? Ice cream buying? Eye contact? Yes, my

Yes, those are examples. Remember that the "default" way for a Five to relate to others is ignoring them as much as possible. Any attention towards you *is* a positive sign.

> 5 shows them. And he has amazing taste in ice cream, also, have you
> ever tried some that was roasted marshmallow flavoured? Mmmmmm...

7 speaking ;-)

> quickly forgive them. ;) I've seen my 5 go to 7 often, like when
> he's driving the car and singing silly song lyrics he made up,
> amazingly, his 7ish behaviour made ME go to 5 and observe it with a
> really serious look on my face. LOL Isn't it amazing when 5s and
> 7s switch places?

Yes, and I like it. It makes me feel more alive. But I do need to get back "home" after a while.

> > Right, I forgot hand-holding ;-)

> Gotta love it, eh?

With the right person, yes! :-)

> ran around, from painting to painting, sculpture to sculpture. He
> said he loved watching me do that, I'm really just a little girl
> who's excited by creativity. ;)

Interesting. I also like watching "my" 7 have fun. But then, watching is a big 5 specialty :-)

> near as broke as I am. LOL As for kids, I had a Tamagotchi once...
> No, I don't think I ever want real kids. But I bet, as a 7, she
> must be a really fun mother. But then, during bad times, I guess

Probably. I think it depends on the children's point of view. I am not sure I would have appreciated a 7 mother. In fact, I came to appreciate 7s only later in life, when I was a kid I dismissed them as superficial.

> we'd either complain to our kids or pretend the problems don't
> exist. Does that sound like her?


> You mean you 5s AREN'T robots? ;oD

Let me check... no! :-)

> No problem. But we 7s don't usually feel others being intrusive
> the way you 5s do, you've got to keep hat in mind.

It seems hard to believe, but I believe you ;-)

> told a few select people, that's reassuring. Something that I think
> helps; instead of asking a 5 how he/she would feel in X situation,
> ask how 'ONE' would feel in X situation. I think, put that way, I
> can learn about his feelings without him feeling like I'm asking
> specifically about him and intruding.

You seem to have an advanced degrees in 5 studies :-)

Ingo the 5 :-)

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