Posted by Hyperion (188.8.131.52) on May 19, 2003 at 15:55:21:
In Reply to: Time, Decisions, Definitiveness posted by Mike Judge (184.108.40.206) on May 19, 2003 at 08:15:51:
* TIME: *
As an INTP, I have little regard for time unless it is absolutely necessary. I don't even wear a wristwatch because I don't like to worry about time. Time may not even exist in reality. As far as I am concerned, it is just a human tool for keeping track of the past, present and future. It has more often than not, become a big cage that guide and limit our actions.
Don't worry, your INTP is unlikely to miss critical time dependent events even though she might view time the way I do. I was always late for school, and always late for parties (which I rarely attend anyway) but I've never missed a flight yet.
* DECISIONS: *
INTPs need a ton of input before being satisfied with any decision. Being P, we are open-ended and we welcome even more inputs that may or may not change the decision. That means we rarely make snap decisions (unless except under stress, and the decision is made by our inferior but extraverted Feeling function) because there is usually not enough input in a given moment - or there are too many variables that need to be filtered and analyzed. So why does your INTP girl make snap decisions? - I would posit that such impulse maybe among the male-female variations which exists even among INTPs.
* DEFINITIVENESS: *
I definitely remember most things generally with no specific details unless the details themselves are the gist of the recollection. Intuitive types as opposed to sensing types are better at looking at the forest instead of the trees, and the INTP is more interested in the essence of an experience rather than the details.
I don't know how to answer your question about compromise in this area. You cannot force her or any person to remember something that their minds do not want to remember. Perhaps you should just accept that not everybody remember details as well as you do.
* It may seem like I am trying to find ways to make her like myself, but that is not my intent. Rather, my purpose is to *understand* her, so that we can find ways to 'meet in the middle', so to speak, especially in areas which we agree upon as being important. In less significant matters I would frankly prefer to learn to be more like her! *
What is significant for you may not be significant to your INTP (and vice versa). Perhaps you may want to share with her the things that are important to you (like promptness etc) and ask her what are important to her.
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