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Re: How do 5w4 get along w 8s?

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Posted by 8-Hater ( on June 16, 2003 at 09:45:30:

In Reply to: How do 5w4 get along w 8s? posted by schrips ( on June 15, 2003 at 19:08:07:

I am 5w4 also, and my dad and older sister are both 8's. They drive me *crazy*! I think that since 8 is 5's 'security/health' point, that is the aspect of ourselves that we have the most difficulty with, or that we repress the most or whatever. However, with family members we tend to feel secure so we are able to aggressively engage them, even if we prefer not to.

Less than healthy 8's tend to be unable to debate rationally because under stress they go to 5, which makes them believe (erroneously) that they are coming up with all of these great thoughts and arguments, but to a 5 it is clear that they are just aggressively dominating the situation by force of personality, volume of tone, misplaced certainty, etc...and that their arguments are generally childishly ill-considered, derivative, or founded upon erroneous assumptions. I have seen my dad and sister do this over and over again; they never seem to learn.

Anyway, my advice would be to *not* live with an 8 under any circumstances unless you have no other options.

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